These days, being a student can be so God damn expensive, so it’s no surprise really that many university students are turning to ‘sugar daddies’ to help with the crippling amount of debt.
But what is it like? How does these arrangements work? And can they turn into something even more meaningful?
Well, one who knows better than most is MBA student Lara. At 27-years-old, she’s been using Seeking Arrangement for almost three years now. The dating site promises to match wealthy ‘sugar daddies’ to much younger ‘sugar babies’.
Lara has had a staggering 10 sugar daddies in this time, with the last one turning into a romantic relationship.
Speaking to Times Magazine, she said:
When I moved to London I was shocked at how expensive it is. And I still have £40,000 of student loans to pay off. That’s why I signed up. I was nervous at first. I didn’t know what to expect. But you can’t let the men see fear. You have to be in control or there is the risk of being taken advantage of. That’s true for both sides. Nobody wants a carrot to be dangled and to not get the carrot.
The site boasts that you can be gifted up to £3,000 a month, shopping sprees and expensive dinners, so it’s no surprise that some of these girls can be viewed as a ‘gold digger’ or just in a generally negative way.
But Lara says there are ways of managing their expectations and making sure everyone is on the same page.
I think most of the men expect to have sex with the sugar babies eventually, but on the site it says you shouldn’t sleep with someone until you have established ground rules. I have drunkenly made out with some of them, but I’ve never had sex with a sugar daddy. I don’t care how much money they have; I just care how generous they are with it.
These arrangements apparently last weeks, but it obviously takes a bit of time and effort to build chemistry with them to then splash the cash.
The most expensive gift Lara has ever received is a £3,000 sculpture she saw in a gallery, which a sugar daddy then bought her for her birthday.
Lara does get a bit of stick from her male friends, but she isn’t too bothered about the criticism.
Some of my guy friends get mad and say men are not just for money. But I don’t feel bad. I encourage my girlfriends to use it. They always ask if it’s just a bunch of weirdos or if they all expect sex with you, but I tell them you can get what you want out of it.
One of her arrangements has now turned into something more meaningful, as she’s now in a relationship with one of her sugar daddies, a 36-year-old finance worker.
However, she still gets sent £1,000 a month by him to cover student loan payments, pays her rent and her day-to-day expenses. He’s also sent her on holiday to places like Thailand and Sri Lanka for a month each. Nice for some.
People out there might doubt her ways, but perhaps this is just the age we live in now.
Meeting people online is normalised now. It’s standard to use online dating and rightmove.com to find housemates, to use couchsurfing.com and Airbnb. Seeking Arrangement is just another way to meet someone. It’s a dating site where you don’t have to pay for anything – and you get a goody bag. It’s no big deal.