Woman With Five Partners Says Sleeping With Other People Strengthened Her Marriage

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 Woman With Five Partners Says Sleeping With Other People Strengthened Her Marriage

A married woman who admits to being in relationships with five different men at once, including her husband, claims it’s actually helped to strengthen her marriage.

The 34-year-old who was writing under the name of ‘Lisa’ said she has been in a relationship with her husband for half of her life, but claims that having other sexual partners has actually helped them.

Speaking to Elle.com, Lisa – who is currently seeing four other people and her husband – revealed that they had been in an open marriage for quite a few years and have a set of guidelines in place to make sure they’re happy with the arrangement.

At the moment, she has four partners other than her husband – and she shares two of them with her husband.

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Lisa said:

My personality type is conducive to multiple relationships. I’m a connector. I grew up with a really big family; I’m the kind of person who requires a lot of attention. I have a lot of love to give; I like to dote on people. Polyamory helps me do that without putting all my needs on my husband.

Apparently, the subject was addressed when they first moved in together at just 18 years of age. And, only a year later, Lisa instigated a threesome with one of his co-workers.

They set out a rule beforehand that she was fine with him having sexual contact, but no penetrative sex, but she soon had a change of heart.

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She said:

I was so turned on by watching them together. They were gorgeous and I was loving every minute of it; I didn’t feel left out like I thought I would. I totally changed the rule right then and there. That seems to sum up my learning curve with non-monogamy. Now our only rules are honesty, safe sex, and no taking time from mutual commitments.

However, this arrangement obviously has its drawbacks. She still gets jealous when her partner is with someone else and claims it could feature in ‘any relationship’.

Lisa continued: 

You work through jealous feelings just like you work through the rest of your feelings. You feel it, you talk about it, you make a plan for how to do better in the future.

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Her partners vary from one that she only sees a couple of times a year, but chats to over social media and via phone, to a woman she started dating recently who is her ‘submissive’.

Because this isn’t deemed as normal relationship behaviour, they do get quite a lot of stick. But it doesn’t seem to phase them.

She added:

You hear dudes say all the time: ‘How could you let your wife do that?’ We don’t have to ‘let’ each other do things; it’s not our job to parent our partners, or keep them in line, or punish or reward them. We don’t want to be policing each other, that’s not the kind of relationship we want.

Fair play to them.