Alcohol, abuse, and boredom – those are the excuses cheaters have revealed for straying from their partners.
Studies show that almost 60 per cent of men and 45 per cent of women will cheat during their marriage, and that almost one in three couples will be affected by an affair, the Independent reports.
And Reddit shows those figures are not entirely surprising – the question ‘People who cheated on their SO, what was your logic?’ was posted three days ago, and it’s already attracted nearly 2,500 responses
Asked what the reasoning behind there two timing ways were, here are the top answers.
Most people seem to agree that being young and stupid caused them to stray:
Others blame falling out of love as their excuse:
We had been slowly falling out of love and turning into roommates that occasionally rubbed privates together. There was a lot of talk about spicing it up in the bedroom but by her own admission, she’s pretty vanilla and didn’t want to wrap her head around the idea of other positions besides missionary and her being on top. I had been training a very attractive and smart woman at work who noticed I was having a hard time one day and I spilled everything out to her at lunch. A few more weeks of shameless flirting between the both of us culminated in an incredible night in a hotel room that currently holds the top preferred customer spot in my spank bank. It felt awful imagining my girlfriend’s face but at that point the path ahead was crystal clear, we broke up the next day and I never told her what happened. The co-worker and I continued to date off and on for two years. We never could make a relationship work but fell back on the sex.. that whole time was full of lessons I’m still learning.
And unfortunately, some have cheated because of abuse:
16 year marriage. Every night I would beg him for sex, every night he would make some excuse not to. He would then masturbate to pornography, while I lay in our room trying to figure out why I wasn’t enough. Every 10-12 months he would give in and we would have sex. Other than these times there was so physical touching. No hugs. No kisses, no hand holding etc. I was starving.
After one confrontation, he told me to go find a boyfriend, but warned me no one else would want me.
So, I did. It only happened once, but it taught me some really valuable lessons, and gave me the courage to leave this sexually, financially and physically abusive marriage.
It took two years, but I left. I am with a man now who touches me all the time, treats me well and makes me incredibly happy.
Should I have cheated? No. But one partner does not get to totally dictate the couples sex life. I was scared and hurt And broken.
So while I definitely don’t condone cheating in any circumstance, don’t jump to conclusions and brand every one an asshole – some people have legitimate reasons (like an unfortunate, abusive relationship) for straying from their partners.