In a world where it seems like everyone is expecting perfection from their partners, the following confessions from women about what they find attractive in a guy is quite refreshing…
Here are the confessions from 10 women who spoke to Thought Catalogue.
I love really fucking bony guys. Collarbones, ribs, hipbones, all of it. I want to feel like I’m cuddling with a skeleton. Lol… seriously.
Looks like I’m even in with a shout here…
My dad is always extremely gentlemanly towards my mom, so I think from a young age that was something I looked for in the guys I dated. But for me, being gentlemanly is more than you just ‘giving her your jacket’ or ‘holding the door’. For example, I love it when a guy will order for both of us at the table, by asking me what I want and then telling the waiter for both of us. Some women find stuff like that sexist or demeaning, but I absolutely love it.
If you were the ‘dream guy’ of this girl, you’d have to be tempted to order something completely different to what she wanted.
How couldn’t you?
I like guys who are not creative at all. Like, they can be creative thinkers, but I don’t like when they are ‘creatives’ who practice art/writing/music/etc. I generally don’t like creative male personalities, and since I’m a creative professional, I don’t want to feel any competition. My husband is a lawyer who loves reading, board games, and travel. Plenty ‘creative’ for me.
Ahh there’s nothing wrong with a bit of competition, there’s only so ‘creative’ a board game can be…
It’ll probably never happen, but I have a SERIOUS fetish for guys with snakebite piercings.
Hmm, whatever floats your boat I guess…
Out of shape. I don’t like when a guy is too fit.
That pretty much gives about 99 per cent of the nation a chance then, result!
It’s always weird to me when women talk about wanting a guy who plans things/surprises/etc. For me, I love having control over the social element of my relationship and I don’t like any surprises. If I can plan every dinner and holiday that’s awesome. I don’t like guys who get slick with celebrations. Also I want to pick the restaurant.
What do you like exactly then? I bet everyone has a whale of a time at your birthday parties…
I love guys with lots and lots of chest hair. If I can seriously braid that shit, sign me up.
If you can ‘braid that shit’ that would be fucking horrific. Get the hedge trimmers out!
I never want to share a bed with someone except for sex/the occasional night of cuddling, so the guys I’m with have to accept the idea that they would be with someone long-term who will never share their bed. A lot of people are weirded out by this, which I understand, but I’m just someone who really values their sleep and is an extremely light sleeper. I don’t like the feeling of someone next to me all the time, and also I need my personal space. So far I’ve only had one serious relationship where the guy was okay with that, and we dated for three years. When we broke up, I was like ‘oh shit now I have to find another guy who’s okay with paying for a 2-bedroom.
Wow, it looks like you’ve got your priorities right there… You might be waiting a while for that.
I actually like guys who are more my height or smaller. So many people are shocked by that, but for some reason I really like the way it feels. Guys who feel ‘compact’ if that makes any sense. I’ve always liked the slightly muscular, shorter guy look. For the record, I’m 5’7.
Well, that’s fair enough, how does that old saying go? Big things, come in small packages…
I won’t date American guys. He can be whatever he wants, just not American. And yes, I’m American.
This makes pretty perfect sense – sorry guys!
Well it looks there’s pretty much hope for all of us out there, you’ve just gotta look hard enough.