A bisexual women has laid out a handy guide of sex tips for straight guys, which is nice of her.
The article, posted on Men’s Health, comes in a handy point guide, the first point being:
1. There Isn’t One Sure Fire Way To Get Women Off
AKA everyone’s different. She says:
The facts are that every woman’s body is different and every woman’s mind is different. While there are certainly intersections, what turns a woman on and/or what gets her off can be very different than what worked for the last woman you were with. So that means you’re going to have to do two things: Talk to her about what she likes and pay attention to her reactions when you try something.
2. Don’t Learn Sex Techniques From Porn
Porn and sex have different objectives. In sex the aim is a mutually pleasurable experience for both people, but in porn the aim of the two people having sex is to get you, the viewer, off.
See how important that difference is? Porn is about what looks good to you, not about what actually feels good to a woman. And those, alas, are often different things…
And while it is true that no sex advice works for every woman, I can tell you that most women are not crazy about such beloved signature porn moves as mechanically jackhammering a woman with your cock while paying zero attention to her clitoris.
3. Boobs Are Great, But Be Gentle
Here’s the thing to keep in mind, though: Boobs are not merely magically soft objects for you to touch; they are concentrated pleasure delivery devices. Which means that it’s not just that you touch them, it’s how you touch them…
Her nipples are more sensitive than the rest of her breasts, and her breasts are more sensitive than the surrounding skin, so use that to your advantage too. Tease her a little bit, spiral inward from least sensitive to most sensitive areas, and let the sensations build. The more wound up she is, the more fun you’ll both have, and the more likely she is to think of novel and interesting things to do to you in return.
4. Foreplay Can Start Long Before The Bedroom
She has some handy advice about starting foreplay early:
For one thing, if sex doesn’t start when you put your dick in, it can start anywhere. If I know it’s going to happen, sex can last all day for me. I think about it when I’m showering, when I’m putting on lotion to make my skin soft for her, and when I’m choosing what underwear she’ll be tearing off me. I’ll send her a text that’s the right amount of filthy at work, and, while the conversation and mental connection are important, I’ll also let her catch me checking out how hot she is at dinner. It influences the way I put my hand on the small of her back as we get back to her place and the way I kiss her for the first time when we’re finally alone.
It’s not date—foreplay—sex. It’s all sex, on one big continuum. Take the whole concept of “foreplay” as a separate thing out back and shoot it. Putting your dick in is the top layer of the cake, not the cake itself.
So there you go, some handy tips for you all. You’re welcome.