Men, rejoice! The age old answer of how to make your partner have multiple orgasms has finally been revealed.
Well, sort of…
We’ve all been speculating about this phenomenon for centuries and it’s more than likely that most of your mates have been bullshitting about how incredible they really are in the bedroom.
So, why don’t we just ask women themselves about how they get to the point of climax? Well, luckily for us, that’s exactly what OMGYES, Indiana University, and the Kinsey Institute did.
They teamed up to get the most detailed information so far about how women can achieve multiple orgasms. They carried out in-depth interviews with 1,000 women and compiled a simple how-to-guide for having multiples.
1. Don’t touch the clitoris after orgasm.
Despite clitoral stimulation being able to play a main role in orgasm number one, apparently it’s way too intense to directly touch it if you’re aiming for multiples.
Of the 47 per cent of woman who are able to have multiple orgasms, the rest said they couldn’t stand any pressure or touching on their clits.
Speaking to Cosmopolitan, Lydia Daniller, an OMGYES co-founder said:
Something we heard was that a lot of women felt they couldn’t have multiples because right after that first orgasm, their clits were super sensitive. After all that blood rushes directly to the most sensitive body part, any touching can feel almost like pain for some women.
2. Don’t treat the second orgasm like the first.
You have sex, she orgasms, you’re like ‘happy days – job done, I’ll just do the same again!’ Wrong. Apparently, if you want to make her orgasm a second, third, fourth time you need to mix it up a bit.
Something we heard again and again was that if you treat your body after that first orgasm like a whole new body, you can have multiples.
3. Try a ‘clit sandwich’.
Right, this description doesn’t sound particularly tasty – but stick with it!
Basically, a clit sandwich is when she gently sandwiches her clit between her labia majora and pulse. By doing this, you could allow your partner to achieve a second orgasm really quickly, apparently. Definitely worth giving it a go.
4. Communication between sexual partners matters.
This is a pretty obvious one – you can’t just assume everything you’re doing is absolutely fine. Constant communication is damn important and according to Rob Perkins – an OMGYES co-founder – it’s the ‘best bet’ in finding out how your partner could achieve multiple orgasms.
What we found in these studies is that women who speak specifically about what they like are eight times more likely to be happy in their relationship, and six times more likely to be sexually satisfied.
5. Practice makes perfect.
Like anything in life, you’re never going to be amazing at something the first time round. This shit takes time and a bit of experimentation goes a long way.
Perkins said that a lot of women in the study couldn’t achieve multiple orgasms until they were a bit older and had time to play around with a few different ideas.
So, despite the portion of women who can have multiple orgasms being only 47 per cent, he believes it could be a lot higher in the future – so there’s still a chance for you all yet.
6. Not everybody can have multiples.
Finally, this is probably the most obvious one – sadly, not everyone can achieve multiple orgasms. Like this one woman who has been trying for three years and is still unable to climax.
It’s something that simply doesn’t happen for some women. Sorry.
Hope that all helped.