In case you wondered if you were doing it right or perhaps where you were going wrong, ‘sexpert’ Dr Jess has compiled a step-by-step-guide on how to go down on a girl, spectacularly.
The ‘sexologist,’ whose sole profession is to study sex and offer help and advice on basically anything surrounding the matter, shares her fascinating tips on Reddit and the outcome is enlightening.
So, without further a do, let’s get straight down to it and see what the doctor had to say…
According to the expert, it’s important to keep a slow pace and don’t rush things.
When we’re excited, our minds race and our bodies stumble to keep pace. In the heat of the moment, our caresses often become slovenly gropes and our lustful kisses deteriorate into something from a bad romance novel.
I guess ‘slovenly gropes’ are never a good thing…
‘Give her a nose job’
And we’re not talking surgery here. Apparently noses provide the perfect surface to create ultimate pleasure on sensitive areas.
This is what she advised:
Apply a drop of lube and run your nose down the centre of her vulva – roll it around in large circle around the edges or slide it right inside as you nod your head up and down and back and forth. Breathe deeply and let your natural sounds flow freely to let her know just how much you love it.
‘Create a delicious suction cup.’
Pretty sure we’re not talking about chocolate either.
It’s a very different thing entirely.
Open your mouth as wide as you can and press it against her vulva. Suck away as your roll your tongue around the edges of your lips to create your own suction cup.
Sounds good advice to me…
And I don’t mean pummel it, but leave your fingers out and as the doctor advises, ‘forget fingering,’ at first anyway.
She suggests that you ‘place a flat hand against her vulva (as though you’re cupping it) and apply pressure as you slide up and down.’
Copious amounts of lube are also recommended…
It’s all about the Venus Mound…
Dr Jess suggests, that this strangely named part of the female anatomy above the vulva-(it’s correct term is Mons Veneris)- is the ‘key’ to making a female orgasm.
Apparently paying attention to this and ‘sucking, stroking and rubbing’ it, ‘massages the shaft of her inner clitoris.’
While you’re at it, she advises you use three fingers and ‘press upward on the bottom section’ of this allusive area.
‘Stroke her bulbs’
… Of her legs and clitoris apparently.
According to the doctor, the ‘inner clitoris is just as important as the pearl-like head that peers over the top of her vulva.’
Her advice is to:
Use the tip of your tongue to tease between her lips during the early stages of foreplay and use your lips and cheeks (covered in lube) to increase the pressure.
As she gets closer to orgasm, stroke your tongue from the head of her clitoris right down to the fourchette (where the lips meet at the bottom) while pressing your thumbs firmly into the fleshy parts of her outer lips so that she has a grounded surface against which to grind.
Get her a ‘hummer’
She doesn’t mean cars, she means toys. Apparently, stretching a vibrator around your tongue or holding one against her ‘Venus Mound,’ is the best way to do it.
Failing that, she also advises that you ‘moan deeply while you’re eating her out to create natural vibrations.’
Have no manners
She doesn’t mean start shouting insults but she does mean talking with ‘your mouth full.’
She says to let the girl know ‘how much you love it’ and ‘how badly you want to taste her.’
The doctor advises you to ‘press a wide flat surface,’ i.e. tongue, toy or palm, ‘against the length of her vulva or the head of her clitoris and pulse gently,’ at the point of orgasm.
And finally, change your position
The same position over and over again can get quite repetitive and boring, so she has a few suggestions to mix things up a bit, including:
-Getting her onto her stomach
-Getting her to go on all fours
-Getting her to stand her with one leg bent on the couch
-Getting her to grip her ankles
-Getting her onto the kitchen counter and pulling up a chair…
Jeez, things got steamy pretty quickly with those handy hints.
So there you have it, you’ve got everything you need to know, straight from the mouth of a ‘sexpert.’
She certainly touches on all bases…