A mother of four has shared photos of the stretch marks on her stomach in response to body-shamers who say she has too many children.
23-year-old Doreen Ching, from the Johor province of Malaysia, shared the images on her Facebook page hitting back at trolls who told her the scars are her fault for having four kids.
In the honest posts, Doreen spoke about how she has accepted her body has changed after pregnancy and it will never return to how it looked before she gave birth to triplets and then a daughter.
Doreen started by opening up about her initial reaction to the stretch marks writing:
I received a lot of mummies’ inquiries asking me how to eliminate the scars as you’re gonna be scared… and that’s the price, even if you have money.
There’s no way to get rid of it, and it’s like, every day, every day, every day.
Only 21 at the time, I wondered how I would be able to accept my stomach looking like this for the rest of my life.
The first thing I did when I got out of the delivery room was to look at my stomach and my tears came out.
I was cracked up to a very serious kind of rupture and skin tissue was damaged.
Receiving over 23,000 likes at time of writing (March 20), Doreen’s first post was flooded with comments from fellow mothers who sympathised with her experience.
However, although the majority of people applauded the young mother for sharing the truthful post, others body-shamed her leaving hurtful comments calling her ‘ugly’ and ‘disgusting’.
Sharing a photo of herself and her husband, Doreen hit back at the critics in a follow-up post, writing:
I see a lot of people commenting calling me ‘ugly’ and it makes me very sick so much so I want to throw up.
Some men said it was all the woman’s fault for wanting to have so many kids.
Do you have any respect for the women of the world? Your mother? Your wife? And a woman who can afford to have children?
This second post has so far received nearly 2,000 likes and further support from both men and women who have praised Doreen for shutting down the trolls.
I-Chen Lee commented:
You’re great. Those rotten people have only one mouth, and they should be miserable.
They will never understand the greatness of mother’s love, don’t be affected by them.
Watch Carmen’s body positivity story below:
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Cindy Shan also showed her support writing:
Yes, the world’s mother is the greatest. Don’t talk to those boring people.
The stomach is ours, my husband likes it. You’re good. And you are beautiful.
Jazemine Lim simply wrote:
Ignore them. People who don’t have a mind don’t bother. I’m just like you. I always tell the twins that this is the love you gave me.
We really do need more strong women like Doreen who are honest about their experiences with pregnancy and birth so others know they are not alone.
Emily Murray is a journalist at UNILAD. She graduated from the University of Leeds with a BA in English Literature and History before studying for a Masters in Journalism at the University of Salford. Emily has previously worked for the BBC, ITV and Trinity Mirror. When Emily isn’t writing about topics including mental health and entertainment, you can find her at the cinema which is her second home.