The Two Questions That Reveal If You’re Really In Love


Falling in love is a pretty big thing, but how do you know if it will last? And more importantly, if the feeling is real?

Well, instead of leaving it up to fate – and possibly heartbreak – there’s two questions that will tell you whether or not your relationship is doomed to fail.

Two professors at the University of Virginia came up with the crucial questions that can apparently reveal if you and your partner are really in love.


Leora Friedberg and Steven Stern say this is question one: “How happy are you in your marriage relative to how happy you would be if you weren’t in the marriage?”

And this is question two: “How do you think your spouse answered that question?”

According to the Mail Online, Friedberg and Stern asked 4,242 couples these two questions, and then asked them again six years later to compare results.

So how do you know if you’re really in love? Apparently, if you answered that you would be equally happy being single as being in a relationship, you are more likely to break up. Which, let’s be honest, isn’t too surprising.

They also found that those who over-estimated their partners happiness also were more likely to break up. And only 41 per cent of participants could tell how their partner felt about the relationship.

Professor Stern explained:

If I believe my wife is really happy in the marriage. I might push her to do more chores or contribute a larger portion of the family income. If, unbeknownst to me, she’s actually just lukewarm about the marriage, or she’s got a really good-looking guy who is interested in her, she may decide those demands are the last straw, and decide a divorce would be a better option for her.

He added that, in this scenario, pushing a bargain too hard based on the misperception of a partner’s happiness will result in a break up that wouldn’t otherwise have occurred.

Basically, if you want to know if your relationship is lasting, just ask.