A woman has revealed how she finally stopped shaving her body hair in defiance of societal expectations on women to stay hairless.
28-year-old Sonia Cytrowska, from Poland, had been shaving since she was 12 and has said the airbrushed images in magazines and adverts left her feeling insecure.
However just last year, Sonia decided to ditch the hairless beauty regime and she hasn’t looked back.
New post is coming on my polish blog! (Link in bio) ? Dear followers, with this photo I'd like to thank you for beeing here, with me and my hairy project. It is 1 year since I stopped shaving✌?? Legs are still the most uncomfortable place on my body for me (because of hair). But I know that strong comes with time. So I will wait and try to accept myself more and more with every day ? When I appeared here on Insta I would never think that I after 1 year I will have almost 2 000 followers, and that my blog will have 3 300 views by different people, and my posts will be shared more than 200 times. ??? Thank you for supporting me! ❤ You are awesome! ? #1year #anniversary #blogger #bodyhairmovement #polishgirl #polishwoman #bodyhairdontcare #bodyhair #leghair #hairybody #hairywoman #mirrorselfie #bodypositive #followers #legs #leghairdontcare #stopshaving #naturalbeauty #proud #strong #wgdyni #niegolesie #rocznica #dumna #silna #odważna #kobieta #blogerka #owlosodprawdy #gdyniamojemiasto
She’s hoping images of her body will inspire people to fight against unrealistic beauty standards, writing on her blog:
Body hair movement is women who have not shaved their body in a joint project with me. The same women thought it would be easy, but they got scared of the partner’s reaction.
They have realised that they are dependent on the opinions of others and are afraid of loneliness and rejection.
Have they abandoned their resolve to accept their natural body to keep in touch with people who love them for being… unproblematic?
I want to say I AM SORRY!! I noticed that I was making spam to you with this HOW MANY likes I get or HOW MANY people starts following me. I feel that counting likes is pointless and waste of time, cause I know that there are people watching me and my project in absolute silence. Followers doesn't tell me if I do impact on my "target group", because my followers are mostly men… and my wish was to get in touch with WOMEN who are ready to rethink subject "my natural body" and to say them: "Your bodyhair is ok! Tell me, what do you feel about your body? Are you sure that what you feel is 100% yours? Maybe it comes from media? Maybe someone told you that you should be ashamed of your natural look? Please consider it with yourself." Looking at the numbers of likes and followers didn't make me more happy. I wasn't focused at my REAL PURPOSE of this movement, #bodyhairmovement Now I want to show you my last body part with hair. It's my back. I know that lot of womem has it and they feel less feminine. You don't have to. It's NORMAL. Maybe media doesn't show it, but it is still normal ? It's good to be back again ☺ Hope to see you soon! ? #hairybody #hairywoman #naturalwoman #back #hairyback #sorry #stopcounting #bodyhairdontcare #iamback #noshave #beyourself #nofilter #effyourbeautystandards #effyourbodystandards #bodypositive #feminine #feminist #feminism #womenpower #niegolesie #feministka #feminizm #kochamsiebie #akceptacja #nieliczlajkow #polishwoman #naturalnakobieta #wgdyni #powerfromplants
Sonia has even shared her body hair from her back, writing:
Now I want to show you my last body part with hair. It’s my back. I know that a lot of women has it and they feel less feminine.
You don’t have to. It’s NORMAL. Maybe media doesn’t show it, but it is still normal.
In her blog, she says she feels as though she’s leading a kind of double life: her personal life in which her friends don’t know she’s not shaving and her ‘official’ life, in which she’s sharing her message.
Even her husband struggled with the change initially, but she now claims he’s grown to love the change for her:
My husband, who ‘did not like me like that’, yet he did not try to divorce me, and he decided to change his standards of beauty for me and treat these changes as challenges and not an attempt on his aesthetics.
Some time ago I gave myself a word that I won't remove my bodyhair unless I will know that shaving them is entirely my decision. I wanted to stop ads brainwashing my mind & give up thinking "I should shave because everyone is doing this". This is my task list which I made to achieve my goal: -get to know how my body hair will look without any interference, – reach the acceptance to all my body hair while looking in the mirror, – stop being ashamed in front of the others, even if they whisper and stare at me, – be free from need to explain "oh it's just project, I know it looks terrible/unsexy/masculine/etc. It's temporary you know", – be free from belief that I have to fulfill someone's expectation about my appearance, – and finally be free from fear that others will reject me if they will know how I REALLY look like. I knew I will need some time to do my job. It's been more than a year now! ⏳ How about your hairy journey Dear Woman? How do you feel about being unshaved? What do you think about other hairy women? Maybe you want add some items to the list? ? *second pic is without any filter #goals #bodyhair #bodyhairdontcare #acceptance #challenge #bodyhairmovement #natural #realme #hairywoman #naturalwoman #stopshaving #bodyacceptance #societystandards #beauty #beautystandards #questioning #finding #thetruth #realwoman #nofilter #poland #wgdyni #niegolesie #natura #kobieta #wyzwanie #cel #akceptacja #cialo #naturalne
Sonia has an Instagram account with almost 7,500 followers, in which she documents her journey to fully accepting her hairless body, while preparing for the summer when she’ll also reveal the change to many of her friends.
She writes on her Instagram:
I really wanted to go to the bathroom and shave everything. For a moment I felt like a hairy monster who don’t feet to the world, not like a “modern woman I should be”. I gave myself 5 more minutes to think again what I WANT TO DO, not should.
I realised that I like my hairy armpit, my full hairy eyebrows, my soft hairy pubes, even my hairy belly and back. I accept them and I am not ashamed of them. So should I leave all of them and shave only legs?? I was confused.
I asked my husband what he thinks about it and he gave me an advice: “Put on black tights, you have some time until it will be summer. You don’t have to decide now.” So here I am undercover, drinking the best coffee in all city & searching for a good reason in my head not to shave after winter. [sic]
Today I woke up with one though: "I should SHAVE MY LEGS!" ? Today I had a dream in which my female friends and I had a photoshoot ?, like some kind of special day celebrating our friendship ???. We were almost naked, we were only covered with white blankets, and the scenery was delicate, bright and beautiful! ? We were in good mood and we were just ourselves, like nothing need to be hidden. Ofcourse I was 100% natural and hairy and noone cares… except the photographer. He took few pics and suddenly said: "OMG have a look on those legs! ? (Pointing at me) They are so dark! YOU CAN'T SHOW THIS LEGS TO THE WORLD, YOU ARE SO GROSS! ?" Then I woke up. ? I really wanted to go to the bathroom and shave everything. ? For a moment I felt like a hairy monster who don't feet to the world, not like a "modern woman I should be". I gave myself 5 more minutes ⏳ to think again what I WANT TO DO, not should. I realized that I like my hairy armpit, my full hairy eyebrows, my soft hairy pubes, even my hairy belly and back.❤ I accept them and I am not ashamed of them. ❤So should I leave all of them and shave only legs?? I was confused. ? I asked my husband what he thinks about it and he gave me an advice ? "Put on black tights, you have some time until it will be summer.☀ You don't have to decide now." So here I am ? undercover, drinking the best coffee in all city & searching for a good reason in my head not to shave after winter ? #bodyhairdontcare #hairylegs #nightmare #tights #naturalwoman #hairywoman #bodyhairmovement #nofilter #advice #wgdyni #gdynia #coffee #vegan #feminism #blackandwhitecoffee #golićczyniegolić
Sonia’s message is a powerful one of body positivity, fighting hard not to be too influenced by external pressures of people telling you how you should or shouldn’t be.
It’s important to be different, it’s important to choose who you are and it’s important to make those choices yourself.