Another day, another example of women not having control over their own bodies.
This time, T.I. has taken it upon himself to make sure his 18-year-old daughter – an adult – is still a virgin by taking her to the gynaecologist every year to check her hymen is still intact.
The 39-year-old rapper, whose real name is Clifford Joseph Harris Jr, made the horrifying revelation on a podcast earlier this week, admitting he makes the appointments himself shortly after Deyjah’s birthday each year.
The comments came about when Harris, while speaking on the Life Hacks episode of the Ladies Like Us podcast, was asked whether he had spoken to his children about sex.
He responded by saying Deyjah had just started her first year of college and was ‘figuring it out for herself’, so ‘not only’ had they had the conversation, but they have ‘yearly trips to the gynaecologist to check her hymen’.
To clarify, the hymen is a thin piece of tissue that surrounds the external vaginal opening and can ‘break’ for any number of reasons – including sex, yes, but also: horse riding; inserting a tampon; riding a bike; gymnastics; etc, etc…
So T.I.’s claims he can ‘check’ his daughter’s virginity is not only extremely disturbing and harmful, but it’s scientifically inaccurate too. Even if it turned out Deyjah’s hymen was not intact one year, it could be for any number of reasons.
The rapper’s claims initially drew laughs from hosts Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham, who thought he must have been joking or at least exaggerating. But he wasn’t, with Harris then going into more detail about the doctor’s visits.
He continued, as per Femail:
So it’s this one time we go, I think this might have been after her 16th birthday. This is what we do. Right after the birthday we celebrate, usually like the day after the party she’s enjoying her gifts.
I put a sticky note on the door: ‘Gyno. Tomorrow. 9:30.’ So we’ll go and sit down and the doctor will come and talk and the doctor’s maintaining a high level of professionalism. He’s like, ‘You know sir, I have to, in order to share information.’
I’m like, ‘Deyjah they want you to sign this so we can share information. Is there anything you wouldn’t want me to know? See doc? No problem.’
Harris then recalled the doctor mentioning all of the other ways a hymen can be broken, but he clearly wasn’t interested in any of that because he simply stated: ‘Just check the hymen please and give me back my results expeditiously.’
So far, the results have been to the father’s liking, with him claiming: ‘I will say as of her 18th birthday, her hymen is still intact.’ So not only is he invading his daughter’s privacy through these gynaecology appointments, but he’s now sharing her medical information publicly for the world to hear.
He then contradicts himself completely by suggesting no boy wants to be with a virgin, stating: ‘They’re no fun. Who wants a virgin? Like really? All that work.’ Wow.
Of course, it’s one rule for one and one rule for another, as T.I. is well aware that his 15-year-old son, King, is already sexually active.
The teenager admitted in a June 2019 episode of the family’s VH1 reality show he’s already having sex. Something you think would cause outrage, judging by his father’s yearly trips to the doctors with his 18-year-old daughter.
It turns out that’s not the case though, as Harris isn’t nearly as concerned with his son’s sexual deeds, laughing off the entire thing and stating: ‘I will definitely feel different about a boy than I will about a girl.’
What a surprise.
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A Broadcast Journalism Masters graduate who went on to achieve an NCTJ level 3 Diploma in Journalism, Lucy has done stints at ITV, BBC Inside Out and Key 103. While working as a journalist for UNILAD, Lucy has reported on breaking news stories while also writing features about mental health, cervical screening awareness, and Little Mix (who she is unapologetically obsessed with).