An inspirational speaker has nailed exactly what it is that makes people fall in love with each other and it’s got nothing to do with buying each other flowers.
Speaking on a video for GoalCast Simon Sinek explained that love isn’t something that comes about because of extravagant displays of affection but instead it’s the minor everyday things people do for their partner which make people fall in love.
We can’t really put it into word any better than Simon who sums up the feeling of falling in love with someone perfectly.
She didn’t fall in love with you because you remembered her birthday and bought her flowers on Valentine’s Day.
She fell in love with you because when you woke up in the morning you said ‘good morning’ to her before you checked your phone.
She fell in love with you because when you went to the fridge to get a drink you got her one without even asking.
She fell in love with you because when you had an amazing day at work and she came home and she had a terrible day at work, you didn’t say: ‘Yeah, yeah, yeah. But let me tell you abut my day.’ You sat and listened to her awful day and didn’t say a thing about your amazing day.
This is why she fell in love you. I can’t tell you exactly what day. It was no particular thing you did. It was the accumulation of all those little things tat she woke up one day as if she pressed a button, she goes, ‘I love him’.
The same with the relationship It’s not about the events, it’s not about intensity it’s about consistency
So there you go the secret to love isn’t over the top gestures but simple consistent positive behaviour, it’s not exactly rocket science but it is good to know.
Simon Sinek, according tot the about section on his Facebook page, is best known for popularising the concept of ‘Why’ and for the TED talk he gave on the subject.
Of course you may remember Simon for when he went viral after his perfect rant about Millennials and their sense of entitlement.